Two weeks ago I had a fantastic time speaking at the national American Agri-Women conference in Niagara Falls. For those of you that haven’t heard of the AAW, it is the nation’s largest coalition of farm, ranch and agribusiness women with over fifty state, commodity and agribusiness affiliate organizations throughout the country. It is an all-volunteer organization, working to advocate for agriculture since 1974.
I gave my presentations “Building the Business that Creates the Life You Want” and “Delegating: A Guide to Higher Profits for Control Freaks” to the (mostly) female attendees. I admit I was a little nervous. I thought, “what are these hardworking farmers and agricultural business leaders going to think of an event planner coming to tell them how to run their businesses?” I was wrong. The lessons I’ve learned and the changes I’ve implemented in my business were EXACTLY what these women needed to hear. I administered a little tough love when I made it clear that the only obstacle these business owners had was themselves. They need to set clear boundaries of time and tasks and stick to them…then delegate anything that they are not good at, don’t enjoy doing, or don’t make money doing. That is the only way to enjoy life while running a successful business and leading by example to the next generation of farmers and ranchers.
No matter what industry you’re in, you can have a successful business and balanced life! It doesn’t matter if you’re an event planner or a farmer. It doesn’t matter if you’ve been in business one month or twenty years…change the business so that it is serving you! Set personal goals that the company can help you meet. Don’t be afraid to delegate tasks to others and hire help. Make changes as needed to the business…be flexible.
I have so much respect for the women in the the agriculture industry and was honored I could share my ideas with them.
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CEO of Forté Events, Tami Forero is a veteran of the special event industry having planned hundreds of strategic corporate, social and non-profit events. She’s a sought after consultant and speaker with topics both on the event industry and business skills.
In 1995, Country Western Artist, Patty Loveless recorded a song entitled, “How Can I Help You To Say Goodbye.” It did not reach #1 but made an impact on country western music. It is a heartbreaking tune about a woman’s relationships in life including re-location, divorce and caring for her elderly mother at a crucial time in her life.
Here is an excerpt:
Sitting with Mama alone in her bedroom
She opened her eyes, and then squeezed my hand
She said, I have to go now, my time here is over
And with her final word, she tried to help me understand
Mama whispered softly, Time will ease your pain
Life’s about changing, nothing ever stays the same
And she said, How can I help you to say goodbye?
It’s OK to hurt, and it’s OK to cry
Come, let me hold you and I will try
How can I help you to say goodbye?
Saying “goodbye” is difficult no matter what the situation. It is especially difficult when a loved one dies and there are strong feelings of sadness as well as sincere feelings of appreciation for the life shared. Finding small, personal, and unique ways to celebrate in the midst of the loss helps us move from hurt and grief to acceptance and hope. It’s a process. As you go through that process, I encourage you to be kind, generous, and gentle with yourself. Be flexible and accepting of the vast range of emotion that you are experiencing. Seek support form others.
I particularly like the closing words; “It’s OK to hurt, and it’s OK to cry. Come let me hold you and I will try. How can I help you to say goodbye?” Look for those people around you who are trying to convey that message or at least thinking it. They will be there.
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